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Modern Love Podcast: ‘Why Do People Get Married?’

Seven years into a serious relationship, Jake Maynard got a text from his mother: “Gramma Gert: 3, Jake: 0.” This was her way of telling him that his grandmother, in her 80s, was getting married for the third time, while Jake remained unmarried and childless in his late 20s.

His family found this strange. Stranger still, at least in Jake’s view, was his grandmother’s choice of partner. (You’ll have to listen to the episode.)

Amid this celebration, Jake wondered why people get married, and what it means to attach your life to another’s.

On the season premiere of the Modern Love podcast, we explore how two generations of the same family — 50 years apart — grapple with identity, tangled kin and marriage.

At the end of today’s episode, Jake Maynard calls up his grandmother Gert and her new husband, Bill. Below, you can get a taste of their conversation.

“What does he do to make you happy?” Jake asks his grandmother.

“Just about everything,” Gert says without missing a beat. “He gets up before I do in the morning. He gets the coffee pot ready. I have a kink in my back — permanent. He heats up the heating pad for me and brings it to my chair.”

“I think married life in a nutshell, is being happy, supportive, just pleasing each other,” Gert adds.

Bill’s take? “I’m happy to be in this marriage,” he says. “I know I want to spend at least another hundred years with her.”

Hosted by: Daniel Jones and Miya Lee
Produced by: Julia Botero and Hans Buetow
Edited by: Wendy Dorr
Music by: Dan Powell
Mixed by: Marion Lozano
Narrated by: MacLeod Andrews
Special thanks: Nora Keller, Mahima Chablani, Julia Simon, Bonnie Wertheim, Anya Strzemien, Joanna Nikas, Choire Sicha, Lisa Tobin, Sam Dolnick and Ryan Wegner at Audm.

The Modern Love essay featured in this episode is “Trying to Keep Up With Grandma’s Love Life,” by Jake Maynard.

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