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What We Know About Sunny Balwani

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Who is Sunny Balwani, Elizabeth Holmes’s former right hand at Theranos and her former boyfriend, and where has he been throughout her fraud trial? On Tuesday, Ms. Holmes brought up Mr. Balwani several times in testimony.Mr. Balwani’s lawyer, Jeffrey Coopersmith, was in the courtroom last week, taking notes in a large yellow notebook, reading legal documents on his phone and declining to comment on his client. But of Mr. Balwani, there has not been a trace.Nor did he seem to be at home on a recent Sunday morning in Atherton, Calif., the Silicon Valley community that the richest of the techno-rich call home. No one answered the gate buzzer outside his 8,800-square-foot house, which he bought in 2018. There were no cars to be seen and no lights on. Zillow values the property at $19 million.Th...
Tiny Love Stories: ‘I Forced Cinderella to Scrub the Stage Floor’

Tiny Love Stories: ‘I Forced Cinderella to Scrub the Stage Floor’

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Old Roots Bearing FruitOn a brisk November morning, I found myself climbing a fruit tree in my mother’s backyard in suburban Virginia. My 3-year-old insisted that I pick the last persimmon at 6:30 a.m. My father planted that tree two decades ago because the persimmons reminded him of the home he left behind in Korea. Now each year, come Thanksgiving, the tree bears vibrant orange fruit on the grayest of almost-winter mornings, and I am reminded of him. I think of how he would have held his granddaughter’s hands, had they been given the chance to meet. — Heidi ShinA Kind of Cinderella StoryIn second grade, I was cast as Cinderella’s wicked stepmother in my school’s medley of fairy-tale skits. Tall, with dark hair pulled back, I forced Cinderella to scrub the stage floor. With a body I thoug...
Who Is Billy Evans, Elizabeth Holmes’s Boyfriend?

Who Is Billy Evans, Elizabeth Holmes’s Boyfriend?

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Elizabeth Holmes, the founder of the blood testing start-up Theranos, arrived in court on Monday for her second day of testimony. She came with her mother, Noel Holmes, and another person who has been a consistent presence alongside her at the trial: Billy Evans, her partner.Mr. Evans’s family founded the Evans Hotel Group, a hotel chain in Southern California. He graduated from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology in 2015 and worked at a tech start-up until early 2019, according to his public LinkedIn page.Not much is publicly known about Ms. Holmes’s relationship with Mr. Evans. The two were first seen together at the Burning Man festival in 2018, the year that Theranos shut down. Mr. Evans and Ms. Holmes, 37, had a child together in July; she often totes a diaper bag in court.Mr. E...

Meet ‘Love on the Spectrum’ Dating Coach Jodi Rodgers

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When the producers of the Netflix show “Love on the Spectrum” first asked Jodi Rodgers to join, she turned them down. A sexologist and counselor who specializes in autism spectrum disorder, she was reluctant to appear in the series, where her private work helping people navigate the challenges of dating would be made into entertainment.“Originally I said that there’s no way that I’m going to be filmed doing my work on television because it’s very vulnerable,” Ms. Rodgers said over Zoom from her home in Alstonville, on the east coast of Australia. “I hold my job to a really high standard, and I really believe in developing a genuine relationship with the people that I work with.”Her concerns were assuaged when she realized she’d have hours to work with each client, though the time seems muc...

Tiny Love Stories: ‘I Only Sort of Hope He’s Happy’

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Delayed DeliveranceTicket stubs, foreign coins. Life’s ephemera tossed into a box. After my husband, Kevin, died of cancer at 49, I packed it away on a shelf, unopened. Now, a decade later, it was time to look. I didn’t expect to find a letter, never delivered, from 2001, in which he admitted that he’d read my journals and said he missed that passionate writer. He wanted her back. An admission and a plea. If I could, I would tell him this: I missed that writer, too, and found her again with your help. Thank you, Kevin, for always knowing me best. — Lori Tucker SullivanOur Invisible StringI’m running late to the airport, so our goodbye is fast: my suitcase, her arms around my waist, a kiss that’s starting to feel more natural in public. The invisible string connecting me to my best friend t...

El elusivo Sr. Col Rizada

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Más tarde, esa misma tarde, me detuve en Whole Foods y compré un camote, leche de almendras, salsa para pasta, productos agrícolas y algunos bocadillos sin gluten. Mientras me acercaba con trabajos a la caja, haciendo malabares con los productos en los brazos, una cajera me hizo un gesto para que me acercara y me dijo: “Y solo pensabas comprar unas cuantas cosas, ¿no? Pero luego ves una cosa y otra…”.“Así es”, le dije. “Siempre salgo con más de lo que planeo”. También tengo una aversión irracional a los carritos de compras, pero no pensé que mereciera la pena comentarlo.Coloqué los bocadillos en la cinta transportadora mientras la salsa de pasta y la leche se me escapaban torpemente de los brazos. Cuando mi camote cayó en la cinta al otro lado del separador de plástico, el cliente que esta...
Love Letter: A Manny’s Love

Love Letter: A Manny’s Love

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For Kevin Renn, the writer of this week’s Modern Love essay, being a 6-foot-tall Black male nanny came with its challenges. But nothing could prepare him for the moment he would have to walk away from the tiny companion who stole his heart.[Like this newsletter? Sign up to receive it in your inbox.]We want to hear from you.We want to deliver content that truly matters to you and your feedback is helpful. Email your thoughts to loveletter@nytimes.com.
Interracial Dating: Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?

Interracial Dating: Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?

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Last September, when Remy Barnwell, 26, started dating Ben Podnar, who is white, she was hesitant to wear her hair in its natural state. As a Black woman, she was uncertain of how he would respond to her tightly coiled strands.On her first date with Mr. Podnar, Ms. Barnwell, a tax attorney in Washington, D.C., arrived wearing box braids that concealed her natural Afro. Six months would pass before she let Mr. Podnar see her kinky coils.“I definitely noticed the first time she took her braids out and I remember her being very concerned about how I would feel,” said Mr. Podnar, 29, an audience development director for the Center for American Progress in Washington.Ms. Barnwell, who said straightening her hair since childhood “reinforced the idea that my natural hair was not enough,” was plea...
Tiny Love Stories: ‘His Skin Against Mine’

Tiny Love Stories: ‘His Skin Against Mine’

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It’s Kind of a Funny Story …So, I’m visiting my friend Donnie in Charlotte, N.C. He tells me that he has a younger sister who lives in Manhattan. I say I’d like to meet her. Soon after, Donnie’s father dies. I bring lemon chicken to the wake. Donnie calls me over to meet his sister, Bonnie. (Donnie’s twin brother is Ronnie.) Mesmerized, I shake Bonnie’s hand for a stupidly long time and keep repeating, “I brought chicken.” Some time later, Donnie calls Bonnie and says, “Remember the guy with the chicken?” Wary, she replies, “Yeah.” We married nine months later. — Bruce JulianMe and Bonnie on our wedding day with Ronnie in the background.When It Was TimeI carried our first child, and my wife carried our second — a perk of our two-uterus marriage. As her belly grew, so did my apprehension. C...
Anxious, Avoidant or Secure: ‘Attached’ Is the Book That’s Shaping How We Understand Love

Anxious, Avoidant or Secure: ‘Attached’ Is the Book That’s Shaping How We Understand Love

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Her sense is that people will say “‘I’m avoidant, guess I’m never going to have a relationship.’ ‘I’m anxious. So I’m, I’m texting him too much, and that’s why he doesn’t like me.’ Those kinds of words have power.”Even the Author Is SurprisedAnother critique is that the book flattens nuance out of some very complicated ideas, and that its success is owed to part of a larger trend of people overeager to reduce themselves or others to a single style (see: Myers-Briggs tests, Enneagram typing, Zodiac signs). They do this, goes the critique, in order to further pronounce their own identity, rather than realizing that our behavior and attachment styles (and thus, our identities) aren’t so precisely fixed, or attributable to just one single thing, goes the critique.“There is a spectrum,” Dr. Lev...