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Love Letter: Dancing With Mom From a Distance

Love Letter: Dancing With Mom From a Distance

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During the early days of the pandemic, many families had to forgo in-person visits with senior loved ones as a means to keep them safe.A year ago, the lockdown forced Erika Shimahara, the writer of this week’s Modern Love essay, to find a safe and creative way to stay engaged with her 84-year-old mother, who lives in an assisted living facility. The pair spent their time working up a sweat and dancing to a curated playlist of her mother’s favorite songs over FaceTime. “If it weren’t for Covid, I never would have learned that my mother and I can have fun together without actually being in the same place,” Ms. Shimahara writes.In 2018, when Sara Cunningham posted a message on her Facebook account that said she would stand in for any mother that would not attend their child’s wedding, she had...
Doing ‘The Washing Machine’ With My 84-Year-Old Mother

Doing ‘The Washing Machine’ With My 84-Year-Old Mother

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When I see my mother on the screen holding her hot-pink, one-pound dumbbells, I start playing “Circle of Life” by the singer she calls “Elton Johns.” We begin with shoulder rolls followed by arm circles, basic side steps and — her favorite — forward punches.She’s wearing my brother’s cycling windbreaker from his college days nearly three decades ago. It was always large but now swallows her like a trash bag.Only a year ago, my stocky, 84-year-old mother could hike with me up steep San Francisco hills. But since the pandemic hit, she has shriveled, become wobbly on her feet, even fallen a few times. Now, on the screen in her billowing chinos, she’s trying to exercise with me, but her moves are sluggish.Suppressing my anguish, I shout above the music, “Can you lift your leg higher, Ma?”Befor...
Newspaper Pop-up Card

Newspaper Pop-up Card

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Coax your newspaper into three-dimensional flowers to make a sweet springy pop-up card for a special someone: mother, aunt, grandma, sister, friend, anyone! Once you learn this surprisingly simple technique for making cupped flowers, you can layer or tape them side-by-side to make different styles. Cut almond shapes and thin strips of newspaper for leaves and stems.You’ll fold a square of paper to cut all the petals at once, similar to how you make a paper snowflake, then use a technique similar to sewing a dart to create the flower heads. An important trick: Use very tiny pieces of double-sided tape to stick the flowers to each other and the card to allow them to “bloom” when you open it.1. Fold the largest square in half and then in half again. Fold in half yet again, diagonally.2. Use s...
A Year of Cooking With My Mother

A Year of Cooking With My Mother

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Let the record show that I make a terrible roommate. I can still hear my mother’s voice as she encountered the sink full of dishes, the counter spilling over with spices and syrups: “I can’t live like this!”About nine months ago, I moved back home to Atlanta to write a cookbook with my mother, Jean. A couch-surfing freeloader, I was only supposed to be there for a couple of months to work on the kimchi chapter, a selection of heirloom recipes I would never have been able to develop over the phone from New York, where I live now. But as each month passed, I found more and more excuses to stay.By cooking with Jean in such a structured, quotidian way, I was able to stop time, a compelling state for an anxious mind like mine. I could finally slow down and ask her questions about the foods we a...